Mood Ring Colors Chart:
=Midnight Black (Black~Ebony~Onyx)- Serious, Intense, Aloof, Mysterious, Stormy, Excited, Energetic, Stressed, Overworked, Tensed, Angry, Mad, Mood Ring Is Inactive, Nothing, Not Working
=Brown (Tan/Beige~Amber-Brown~Bronze/Copper)- Anticipation, Heated Emotions, Reactive, Rising Energies, Unexplored, Adaptive, Random Thinking, Restless, Jitters, Puzzled, Troubled, Worried, Fear
=Red-Brown (Red~Rose~Ruby)- Allured, Aroused, In Love, Excited, Passionate, Awe-Struck, Active, Adventurous, Anxious, Insecure, Angered, Harassed, Stressed, Tensed, Alarmed, Fearful
=Amber-Red (Coral~Orange~Sunstone)- Busy, Searching/Seeking, Stimulating Ideas, Daring Wants, Hyper, Excited, On Edge, Impatient, Nervous, Worried, Stressed, Aggressive, Exasperated
=Amber (Yellow-Orange~Saffron~Brass/Gold)- Mixed Emotions, Lovable, Emotional, Passionate, Concerned, Sincere, Challenged, Cool, Uncertain, Aloof, Confused, Sad, A Little Nervous, Upset
=Yellow (Olive~Golden~Topaz)- Ok Feeling, Moderate Mood, Vague, Bored, Emotions Mixed, Ambitious, Cautious, Imaginative, Distracted, Wondering Thoughts, Unsettled, Insecure, Anxious, Strained
=Amber-Green (Green-Yellow~Lime~Peridot)- Mixed Emotions, Hopeful, Excitable, Expectant, Romantic, Restless, Edgy, Irritated, Ill At Ease, Worried, Troubled, Uneasy, Distressed, Fear
=Green (Jade Green~Light Green~Emerald)- Basic Neutral, Average Reading; Normal, No Great Stress, Calm, Easily Amused, Alert, Intent, Involved, Sensitive, Touchy, Ambivalent, Inner Disquiet, Envy, Jealousy
=Blue-Green (Teal~Cyan~Aquamarine)- Easy-Going, Inner Reading; Normal, Emotional, Inner Emotions Charged, Somewhat Relaxed, Flirtatious, Stimulated, Upbeat, Surprised, Puzzled
=Blue (Dark Blue~Bright Blue~Sapphire)- Happy, At Ease, Relaxed, Near Bliss, Contented, Tranquil, Peaceful, Pleasant, Warm, Lovable, Passionate, Romantic, In Love
=Violet-Blue (Purple/Blue~Indigo~Iolite)- Contented, Deeply Relaxed, Very Happy, Intensely Passionate, In Love, Very Romantic, Feeling Great, The Ultimate - At Your Best
=Violet (Purple~Lavender~Sugulite)- Moody, Mischievous, Mystical, Sensual, Emotionally Excited, Physically Charged, Blissful, Happy, Passionate, Romantic, Intrigued, Desire, In Love
=Red-Violet (Red/Purple~Mauve~Amethyst)- Romantic, Violent Love, Moody Passions, Over The Edge, Emotionally Peaking, Overexcited, Hyper, Infuriated, Surging Energies, Ballistic, Despair, Unhappy
=Fuschia (Magenta~Pink~Rose Quartz)- All Right, At Rest, Mellow, Happy, Warm, Affectionate, Love Glow, Resonant, Cool, Tipping Point, Curious, Unanswered Questions, Mystified, Fear, Wonder, Entranced
=Gray (Smoke Gray~Stone Gray~Titanium/Silver)- Neutral, At Rest, Cool, Aloof, Inhibited, Little Emotion, Unconcerned, Tired, Depressed, Sad, Uneasy, Afraid, Very Anxious, Worried
=White (Moonstone~Ice Mist~Ivory)- Meditative, Restrained Mood, Philosophical, Temperate, Not Much Enthusiasm, Indifferent, Bored, Confused, Frustrated, Pensive, Strained, Astounded, Intense Fear
=Clear (Ice Blue~Crystal~Diamond)- Psychic Perceptions, Pure Visions, Surreal Quality, Elusive, Fear, Unreal Moods, Mental Void, Completely Emotionless, Mood Ring Is Not Real, Faux, Fraud
=Mist Blue (Silvered Gray-Blue~Cat Eye Blue~Sillimanite)- Cool, Wistful, Wondering, Somewhat Odd Feelings, Suspicious Of, Questioning, Forlorn, Wanderlust, Bittersweet, Sorrowful, Despair
=Green Sky (Golden Yellow-Green~Cat Eye Green~Chrysolite)- Calm, Relaxed, Nonchalant Emotions, Pondering, Discerning, Searching For, Desiring, Envy, Bemused, Surprised
=Cobalt Blue (Blue Fire~Lucid Blue~Blue Amber)- Mellow, Collected, Desirable, Enamored, In Love, Radiant, Reminiscent Passions, Warm, Lambent Glow, Genuine Concerns, Intuitive, Suspended Disbelief
=Green/Violet (Deep Teal~Indigo Green~Chrysocolla)- Upbeat Motivation, Emotional, Intuitive, Slightly Unpredictable, Mostly Relaxed Mood, Contented/Delighted, Rejuvenated, Having A Sense Of Ease
=Brown/Violet (Purple Taupe~Gray-Indigo~Axinite)- Distant Hope, Lost, Disenchanted, Lurking Emotions, Nervous, Mystical Depths Of Feeling, Retrospective, Moody, Mysterious Notions
=Brown/Green (Umber~Green/Red~Chrysoberyl)- Muted, So-So, Cooler, Pressured, Stressed, Antagonized, Tedious Emotions, Tiresome, Misguided Thoughts, Weird Moods, Off-Set
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Monday, August 31, 2009
Saturday, August 29, 2009
from a friend
Subject: Rare Bear Quintruplets
Black bears typically have two cubs; rarely, one or three. In 2007, in northern New Hampshire, a black bear Sow gave birth to five healthy young. There were two or three reports of sows with as many as 4 cubs, but five was, and is, very extraordinary. I learned of them shortly after they emerged from their den and set myself a goal of photographing all five cubs with their mom - no matter how much time and effort was involved. I knew the trail they followed on a fairly regular basis, usually shortly before dark. After spending nearly four hours a day, seven days a week, for more than six weeks, I had that once-in-a-lifetime opportunity and photographed them. I used the equivalent of a very fast film speed on my digital camera. The print is properly focused and well exposed, with all six bears posing as if they were in a studio for a family portrait.
I stayed in touch with other people who saw the bears during the summer and into the fall hunting season. All six bears continued to thrive. As time for hibernation approached, I found still more folks who had seen them, and everything remained OK. I stayed away from the bears as I was concerned that they might become habituated to me, or to people in general, and treat them as `approachable friends'. This could easily become dangerous for both man and animal.
After Halloween, I received no further reports and could only hope the bears survived until they hibernated.
This spring, just before the snow disappeared, all six bears came out of their den and wandered all over the same familiar territory they trekked in the spring of 2007.
I saw them before mid-April and dreamed nightly of taking another family portrait, a highly improbable second once-in-a-lifetime photograph.
On 25 April 2008, I achieved my dream.
When something as magical as this happens between man and animal, Native Americans say, "We have walked together in the shadow of a rainbow". And so it is with humility and great pleasure that I share these exhilarating photos with you. Do pass them on!
Sincerely, / Tom Sears.
Plans for Sept. 11
Subject: Plans for Sept. 11
pass it on......
We have a less than one month to get the word out all across this great land and into every community in the United States of America .
THE PROGRAM:
On Friday, September 11th, 2009, an American flag should be displayed outside every home, apartment, office, and store in the United States . Every individual should make it their duty to display an American flag on this eighth anniversary of one of our country's worst tragedies. We do this to honor those who lost their lives on 9/11, their families, friends and loved ones who continue to endure the pain, and those who today are fighting at home and abroad to preserve our cherished freedoms.
In the days, weeks and months following 9/11, our country was bathed in American flags as citizens mourned the incredible losses and stood shoulder-to-shoulder against terrorism. Sadly, those flags have all but disappeared. Our patriotism pulled us through some tough times and it shouldn't take another attack to galvanize us in solidarity. Our American flag is the fabric of our country and together we can prevail over terrorism of all kinds.
Action Plan:
So, here's what we need you to do.
Fly an American flag of any size on 9/11
Thank you for your participation.. God Bless You and God Bless America !
pass it on......
We have a less than one month to get the word out all across this great land and into every community in the United States of America .
THE PROGRAM:
On Friday, September 11th, 2009, an American flag should be displayed outside every home, apartment, office, and store in the United States . Every individual should make it their duty to display an American flag on this eighth anniversary of one of our country's worst tragedies. We do this to honor those who lost their lives on 9/11, their families, friends and loved ones who continue to endure the pain, and those who today are fighting at home and abroad to preserve our cherished freedoms.
In the days, weeks and months following 9/11, our country was bathed in American flags as citizens mourned the incredible losses and stood shoulder-to-shoulder against terrorism. Sadly, those flags have all but disappeared. Our patriotism pulled us through some tough times and it shouldn't take another attack to galvanize us in solidarity. Our American flag is the fabric of our country and together we can prevail over terrorism of all kinds.
Action Plan:
So, here's what we need you to do.
Fly an American flag of any size on 9/11
Thank you for your participation.. God Bless You and God Bless America !
Friday, August 28, 2009
12 signs of a Batterer
Twelve Signs Of A Batterer
Author Unknown
1. Jealousy
2. They blame others, including you, for their faults. "You made
me lose my temper".
3. The blame circumstance for their problems. "If only I had a job I wouldn't be so upset."
4. Their behavior is unpredictable.
5. They belittle you verbally.
6. They cannot control their anger.
7. They always ask for a second chance.
8. They say they'll change, they won't do it again.
9. Their family resolves their problems with violence.
10. They are close minded. Their way is the only way.
11. They play on your guilt. "If you loved me you would------."
12. Their behavior often worsens if they use alcohol or drugs.
**********************************************************
Excerpt From Ann Landers' Column on Batterers:
1. He comes on as a real charmer and loves you instantly.
2. He has problems with authority figures.
3. He embarrasses you in the presence of others.
4. He is nasty on the road--feels other drivers are competing with him.
5. He wants your undivided attention at all times.
6. You feel controlled because he must always be "in charge."
7. He has a dual personality--sometimes adult, other times childish.
8. He is very competitive--and he must always win.
9. His promises and apologies are meaningless.
10. He displays jealousy toward your close friends and family members.
11. He can't tolerate criticism and is always defending himself and trying to justify
unacceptable behavior.
12. He has extreme highs and low--both unpredictable.
13. He is rough at times--love pats become more and more painful. Suddenly, you realize
he is a serious abuser and you are a victim.
Author Unknown
1. Jealousy
2. They blame others, including you, for their faults. "You made
me lose my temper".
3. The blame circumstance for their problems. "If only I had a job I wouldn't be so upset."
4. Their behavior is unpredictable.
5. They belittle you verbally.
6. They cannot control their anger.
7. They always ask for a second chance.
8. They say they'll change, they won't do it again.
9. Their family resolves their problems with violence.
10. They are close minded. Their way is the only way.
11. They play on your guilt. "If you loved me you would------."
12. Their behavior often worsens if they use alcohol or drugs.
**********************************************************
Excerpt From Ann Landers' Column on Batterers:
1. He comes on as a real charmer and loves you instantly.
2. He has problems with authority figures.
3. He embarrasses you in the presence of others.
4. He is nasty on the road--feels other drivers are competing with him.
5. He wants your undivided attention at all times.
6. You feel controlled because he must always be "in charge."
7. He has a dual personality--sometimes adult, other times childish.
8. He is very competitive--and he must always win.
9. His promises and apologies are meaningless.
10. He displays jealousy toward your close friends and family members.
11. He can't tolerate criticism and is always defending himself and trying to justify
unacceptable behavior.
12. He has extreme highs and low--both unpredictable.
13. He is rough at times--love pats become more and more painful. Suddenly, you realize
he is a serious abuser and you are a victim.
Monday, August 24, 2009
profile of an abuser
Profile of Physical and Emotional Abusers
1. JEALOUSY - In the initial stages of a relationship, abusers say jealousy is a sign of love. Jealousy has nothing to do with love; it is a sign of insecurity and possessiveness. Abusers question their victims about who they talk to, accuse them of flirting and are jealous over time spent with family, friends, or children. As the jealousy progresses and escalates, abusers may phone frequently or drop by unexpectedly. Abusers usually refuse to let their significant others have jobs for fear they might meet someone else or develop a support system. Behavior like checking car mileage or asking friends to spy are other signs of pathological jealousy.
2. CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR - In the initial stages of a relationship, abusers explain that controlling behavior is concern for the significant other's safety, the need to use time well, or the need to make "good" decisions. Abusers are angry if the other person is "late" coming back from the store, from a meeting or appointment, and they ask extensive questions about where their partners went and who they talked to. As controlling behavior worsens, abusers tend to interfere more and more in their victims' personal decisions, like choice of clothing, church attendance, or money. Abusers may even make victims ask permission to leave the room or the house.
3. QUICK INVOLVEMENT - Many victims dated or knew their abusers for less than six months before they were engaged or living together. Abusers come on like a whirlwind, claiming "love at first sight." Abusers flatter their victims with statements like "You're the only person I have ever been able to talk to," "I've never felt loved like this by anyone," or "I'd kill myself if you ever left me." The abuser needs someone desperately and will pressure a victim to make a quick and total commitment.
4. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS - Abusers are dependent on victims to meet all their needs. Abusers expect their partners to be perfect mates, parents, lovers, or friends. Abusers might say things like "If you love me, I'm all you need and you're all I need." Victims are supposed to take care of everything for abusers emotionally and usually take care of everything else in the home, too.
5. ISOLATION - Abusers try to cut their partners off completely from all resources. If the victim is a woman and has male friends, she is a "whore." If she has women friends, she is a lesbian. If the victim is a man who is close to his family, he is "tied to his mother's apron strings." Both male and female abusers accuse those who are supportive of their partners of "causing trouble" and being a primary source of the couple's problems. Abusers may want to live in the country (sometimes without a telephone) and may not want victims to use a vehicle, or they may try to keep them from working or going to school.
6. PROJECTING BLAME ONTO OTHERS FOR PERSONAL PROBLEMS - If abusers are chronically unemployed, it is always someone else who is doing them wrong or is out to get them. Abusers may make mistakes and blame the victim for upsetting them, keeping them from concentrating, or from doing their job. Abusers tell victims they are at fault for almost anything and everything that goes wrong.
7. BLAMING OTHERS FOR THEIR FEELINGS - Abusers tell their victims "You make me mad," "You're hurting me by not doing what I ask," or "I can't help being angry," In fact, abusers make decisions about what they think and feel, then use these feelings to manipulate victims. More subtle are claims like "You make me happy" or "You control how I feel."
8. HYPERSENSITIVITY - Abusers are easily insulted and may claim their feelings are hurt when they are really very angry. Abusers may take the slightest setback as a personal attack. They rant and rave about injustices that have happened to them-- things that are really just a common part of living, like being asked to work overtime, running into bad traffic, or being asked to help with children or housework.
9. CRUELTY TO CHILDREN OR ANIMALS - Abusers may punish animals brutally or be insensitive to their pain and suffering. They may expect children to be capable of doing things far beyond their ability (e.g., whipping a 2-year old for wetting the bed) or may tease children until they cry. Abusers who beat their partners commonly beat their children. Abusers may not want children to eat at the table or may expect children to stay in their rooms all evening.
10. "PLAYFUL" USE OF FORCE DURING SEX - Abusers often like to throw their victims down and hold them during sex, or act out fantasies in which their partners are helpless. Abusers let the victims know the idea of rape is exciting to them and may show little concern about whether victims want to have sex. They will use sulking, intimidation, or anger to manipulate the victim into compliance. Abusers may start having sex with victims while the victim is asleep, or demand sex while victims are ill or tired.
11. VERBAL ABUSE - In addition to saying things that are meant to be cruel and hurtful, this behavior is used by abusers to degrade the victim. Verbal degradation may include running down victims or their accomplishments. Abusers will tell victims they are stupid and unable to function alone. This may involve waking victims up in order to verbally abuse them and not letting them go back to sleep.
12. RIGID ROLES (MASTER/SERVANT BEHAVIOR) - Abusers expect victims to be subservient to them and often insist that victims stay at home and obey them in all things-- even criminal behavior. Abusers see their victims as inferior, stupid, and unable to be a whole person outside of the relationship.
13. THE QUICK CHANGE SYNDROME - Many victims are confused by their abuser's sudden changes in mood. Victims describe that one minute abusers seem nice, and the next minute they explode; one minute they are happy and the next, they are sad. This does not always indicate some sort of mental problem or that abusers are "crazy." Explosiveness and mood swings are typical of abusers who beat their partners, and these behaviors are related to other characteristics like hypersensitivity.
14. PAST BATTERING AND A HISTORY OF PHYSICAL ABUSE - Abusers may admit that they have hit someone in the past, but frequently claim that the victim "made them do it." Victims may hear from relatives or ex-spouses that the person has been physically abusive. Batterers will beat any partner they are with; situations or circumstances do not cause them to batter.
15. THREATS OF VIOLENCE - These include threats of physical force to control the victim. "I'll slap your mouth off," "I'll kick you," or "I'll break your neck." Most partners do not threaten their mates, but batterers will often claim that "Everybody talks like that" or "I didn't really mean it."
16. BREAKING OR STRIKING OBJECTS - Breaking valued possessions is used as punishment, but its primary objective is to terrorize victims into submission. Abusers may beat on tables or walls with their fists, or throw objects around or near their victims.
17. ANY FORCE USED DURING AN ARGUMENT - Abusers may hold victims down, physically restrain them from leaving, push or shove them. Abusers may hold their victims against a wall with statements such as "You're going to listen to me!"
In short, abusive relationships leave victims feeling hopeless -- believing they don't have the right to say no, that they are to blame for the abuse, and that it will stop if they change their behavior.
If you feel you are being physically or emotionally abused, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE and you will be referred to a resource in your area that can help you.
1. JEALOUSY - In the initial stages of a relationship, abusers say jealousy is a sign of love. Jealousy has nothing to do with love; it is a sign of insecurity and possessiveness. Abusers question their victims about who they talk to, accuse them of flirting and are jealous over time spent with family, friends, or children. As the jealousy progresses and escalates, abusers may phone frequently or drop by unexpectedly. Abusers usually refuse to let their significant others have jobs for fear they might meet someone else or develop a support system. Behavior like checking car mileage or asking friends to spy are other signs of pathological jealousy.
2. CONTROLLING BEHAVIOR - In the initial stages of a relationship, abusers explain that controlling behavior is concern for the significant other's safety, the need to use time well, or the need to make "good" decisions. Abusers are angry if the other person is "late" coming back from the store, from a meeting or appointment, and they ask extensive questions about where their partners went and who they talked to. As controlling behavior worsens, abusers tend to interfere more and more in their victims' personal decisions, like choice of clothing, church attendance, or money. Abusers may even make victims ask permission to leave the room or the house.
3. QUICK INVOLVEMENT - Many victims dated or knew their abusers for less than six months before they were engaged or living together. Abusers come on like a whirlwind, claiming "love at first sight." Abusers flatter their victims with statements like "You're the only person I have ever been able to talk to," "I've never felt loved like this by anyone," or "I'd kill myself if you ever left me." The abuser needs someone desperately and will pressure a victim to make a quick and total commitment.
4. UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS - Abusers are dependent on victims to meet all their needs. Abusers expect their partners to be perfect mates, parents, lovers, or friends. Abusers might say things like "If you love me, I'm all you need and you're all I need." Victims are supposed to take care of everything for abusers emotionally and usually take care of everything else in the home, too.
5. ISOLATION - Abusers try to cut their partners off completely from all resources. If the victim is a woman and has male friends, she is a "whore." If she has women friends, she is a lesbian. If the victim is a man who is close to his family, he is "tied to his mother's apron strings." Both male and female abusers accuse those who are supportive of their partners of "causing trouble" and being a primary source of the couple's problems. Abusers may want to live in the country (sometimes without a telephone) and may not want victims to use a vehicle, or they may try to keep them from working or going to school.
6. PROJECTING BLAME ONTO OTHERS FOR PERSONAL PROBLEMS - If abusers are chronically unemployed, it is always someone else who is doing them wrong or is out to get them. Abusers may make mistakes and blame the victim for upsetting them, keeping them from concentrating, or from doing their job. Abusers tell victims they are at fault for almost anything and everything that goes wrong.
7. BLAMING OTHERS FOR THEIR FEELINGS - Abusers tell their victims "You make me mad," "You're hurting me by not doing what I ask," or "I can't help being angry," In fact, abusers make decisions about what they think and feel, then use these feelings to manipulate victims. More subtle are claims like "You make me happy" or "You control how I feel."
8. HYPERSENSITIVITY - Abusers are easily insulted and may claim their feelings are hurt when they are really very angry. Abusers may take the slightest setback as a personal attack. They rant and rave about injustices that have happened to them-- things that are really just a common part of living, like being asked to work overtime, running into bad traffic, or being asked to help with children or housework.
9. CRUELTY TO CHILDREN OR ANIMALS - Abusers may punish animals brutally or be insensitive to their pain and suffering. They may expect children to be capable of doing things far beyond their ability (e.g., whipping a 2-year old for wetting the bed) or may tease children until they cry. Abusers who beat their partners commonly beat their children. Abusers may not want children to eat at the table or may expect children to stay in their rooms all evening.
10. "PLAYFUL" USE OF FORCE DURING SEX - Abusers often like to throw their victims down and hold them during sex, or act out fantasies in which their partners are helpless. Abusers let the victims know the idea of rape is exciting to them and may show little concern about whether victims want to have sex. They will use sulking, intimidation, or anger to manipulate the victim into compliance. Abusers may start having sex with victims while the victim is asleep, or demand sex while victims are ill or tired.
11. VERBAL ABUSE - In addition to saying things that are meant to be cruel and hurtful, this behavior is used by abusers to degrade the victim. Verbal degradation may include running down victims or their accomplishments. Abusers will tell victims they are stupid and unable to function alone. This may involve waking victims up in order to verbally abuse them and not letting them go back to sleep.
12. RIGID ROLES (MASTER/SERVANT BEHAVIOR) - Abusers expect victims to be subservient to them and often insist that victims stay at home and obey them in all things-- even criminal behavior. Abusers see their victims as inferior, stupid, and unable to be a whole person outside of the relationship.
13. THE QUICK CHANGE SYNDROME - Many victims are confused by their abuser's sudden changes in mood. Victims describe that one minute abusers seem nice, and the next minute they explode; one minute they are happy and the next, they are sad. This does not always indicate some sort of mental problem or that abusers are "crazy." Explosiveness and mood swings are typical of abusers who beat their partners, and these behaviors are related to other characteristics like hypersensitivity.
14. PAST BATTERING AND A HISTORY OF PHYSICAL ABUSE - Abusers may admit that they have hit someone in the past, but frequently claim that the victim "made them do it." Victims may hear from relatives or ex-spouses that the person has been physically abusive. Batterers will beat any partner they are with; situations or circumstances do not cause them to batter.
15. THREATS OF VIOLENCE - These include threats of physical force to control the victim. "I'll slap your mouth off," "I'll kick you," or "I'll break your neck." Most partners do not threaten their mates, but batterers will often claim that "Everybody talks like that" or "I didn't really mean it."
16. BREAKING OR STRIKING OBJECTS - Breaking valued possessions is used as punishment, but its primary objective is to terrorize victims into submission. Abusers may beat on tables or walls with their fists, or throw objects around or near their victims.
17. ANY FORCE USED DURING AN ARGUMENT - Abusers may hold victims down, physically restrain them from leaving, push or shove them. Abusers may hold their victims against a wall with statements such as "You're going to listen to me!"
In short, abusive relationships leave victims feeling hopeless -- believing they don't have the right to say no, that they are to blame for the abuse, and that it will stop if they change their behavior.
If you feel you are being physically or emotionally abused, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE and you will be referred to a resource in your area that can help you.
12 signs of an abuser
Twelve Signs Of A Batterer
Author Unknown
1. Jealousy
2. They blame others, including you, for their faults. "You made
me lose my temper".
3. The blame circumstance for their problems. "If only I had a job I wouldn't be so upset."
4. Their behavior is unpredictable.
5. They belittle you verbally.
6. They cannot control their anger.
7. They always ask for a second chance.
8. They say they'll change, they won't do it again.
9. Their family resolves their problems with violence.
10. They are close minded. Their way is the only way.
11. They play on your guilt. "If you loved me you would------."
12. Their behavior often worsens if they use alcohol or drugs.
**********************************************************
Excerpt From Ann Landers' Column on Batterers:
1. He comes on as a real charmer and loves you instantly.
2. He has problems with authority figures.
3. He embarrasses you in the presence of others.
4. He is nasty on the road--feels other drivers are competing with him.
5. He wants your undivided attention at all times.
6. You feel controlled because he must always be "in charge."
7. He has a dual personality--sometimes adult, other times childish.
8. He is very competitive--and he must always win.
9. His promises and apologies are meaningless.
10. He displays jealousy toward your close friends and family members.
11. He can't tolerate criticism and is always defending himself and trying to justify
unacceptable behavior.
12. He has extreme highs and low--both unpredictable.
13. He is rough at times--love pats become more and more painful. Suddenly, you realize
he is a serious abuser and you are a victim.
Author Unknown
1. Jealousy
2. They blame others, including you, for their faults. "You made
me lose my temper".
3. The blame circumstance for their problems. "If only I had a job I wouldn't be so upset."
4. Their behavior is unpredictable.
5. They belittle you verbally.
6. They cannot control their anger.
7. They always ask for a second chance.
8. They say they'll change, they won't do it again.
9. Their family resolves their problems with violence.
10. They are close minded. Their way is the only way.
11. They play on your guilt. "If you loved me you would------."
12. Their behavior often worsens if they use alcohol or drugs.
**********************************************************
Excerpt From Ann Landers' Column on Batterers:
1. He comes on as a real charmer and loves you instantly.
2. He has problems with authority figures.
3. He embarrasses you in the presence of others.
4. He is nasty on the road--feels other drivers are competing with him.
5. He wants your undivided attention at all times.
6. You feel controlled because he must always be "in charge."
7. He has a dual personality--sometimes adult, other times childish.
8. He is very competitive--and he must always win.
9. His promises and apologies are meaningless.
10. He displays jealousy toward your close friends and family members.
11. He can't tolerate criticism and is always defending himself and trying to justify
unacceptable behavior.
12. He has extreme highs and low--both unpredictable.
13. He is rough at times--love pats become more and more painful. Suddenly, you realize
he is a serious abuser and you are a victim.
Wednesday, August 19, 2009
10 ways legal to punish a cheater
10 legal ways to punish a cheaterStory Highlights
If your ex cheated on you, there are legal ways to get even
Do whatever it takes to look your best, post pix on Facebook with male friend
If his mom or sister ask about breakup, tell them he cheated on you
Ignore all social media contact from him. But post a song about his cheating ways
updated 9:23 a.m. EDT, Wed August 19, 2009Next Article in Living »
By Jessica Wakeman
(The Frisky) -- You don't have to be Jennifer Aniston to think that the four women who Krazy-Glued a cheater's penis to his stomach were way harsh and beyond psycho.
If your ex's loved ones ask why you broke up, it's OK to admit he cheated on you, writer says.
But in our less scrupulous/mature moments, many of us want to punish a particularly nasty ex, especially if he was a cheater.
Ladies, let's keep it legal (and Krazy Glue-free), OK? Here are 10 ideas:
1. Email his crappiest crap e-mail to Jezebel.com's Crap E-mail From A Dude and when they publish it, discreetly post the link as your GChat away message.
2. Call up your hottest platonic male friend, grab your digital camera and go do something adorable together. Now it's time to create a Facebook photo album full of pics of you looking smiley. (Bonus points if your ex was slightly paranoid that this guy had a thing for you). The Frisky: Possible to remain friends with an ex?
3. Permanently adopt that comfy sweatshirt he left at your place. Especially if he's the one who caused the breakup, he probably doesn't have the cojones to ask for it back now.
4. Gain that extra 10 lbs that fills you out nicely, like Joan Holloway on "Mad Men"...
5. ...or lose that extra 10 lbs so you can fit into your sexy jeans again. Either way, this also requires a Facebook photo album. The Frisky: How Joan Holloway gives me confidence
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6. You might hear from his mom, sisters, or other family members you were close to after the breakup, especially if you dated for a long time. Airing too much of your dirty laundry to them will make you look like a psycho. But if he did cheat on you (and you didn't cheat back), it couldn't hurt to mention how his bad behavior led to the split. The Frisky: 10 rules on way men and women eat
Dude sure as hell didn't tell them the truth about why you broke up! And any mom or sister worth her salt will tear your ex a new one when they learn that's why he lost a great girl like you. The Frisky: Continue relationships with an ex's loved ones?
7. Ignore every single text, Tweet, Facebook poke and email from here on out. But kept posting stuff on your social networking sites on the regular.
8. If you're a songwriter or a poet, well, you know what to do. The creep who caused Ani Di Franco's song "Untouchable Face" probably hasn't forgotten what he did.
9. Penning aggressive-aggressive emails (as opposed to passive-aggressive ones) is always therapeutic. The Frisky: Passive aggressive notes Web site
10. Spend a few months feeling down. Indulge in some therapy. Do some fun things single women do. Work extra-hard at your job and get a promotion. Go take a trip or buy some new clothes. Whenever you're ready, go meet a new guy. Fall in love. Have tons of great sex. Laugh a lot. Talk about baby names and where you want your honeymoon to be. The next time you run into your ex, mention all the great things that have happened in your life since you broke up ... or just smile. The Frisky: Happy to be single
If your ex cheated on you, there are legal ways to get even
Do whatever it takes to look your best, post pix on Facebook with male friend
If his mom or sister ask about breakup, tell them he cheated on you
Ignore all social media contact from him. But post a song about his cheating ways
updated 9:23 a.m. EDT, Wed August 19, 2009Next Article in Living »
By Jessica Wakeman
(The Frisky) -- You don't have to be Jennifer Aniston to think that the four women who Krazy-Glued a cheater's penis to his stomach were way harsh and beyond psycho.
If your ex's loved ones ask why you broke up, it's OK to admit he cheated on you, writer says.
But in our less scrupulous/mature moments, many of us want to punish a particularly nasty ex, especially if he was a cheater.
Ladies, let's keep it legal (and Krazy Glue-free), OK? Here are 10 ideas:
1. Email his crappiest crap e-mail to Jezebel.com's Crap E-mail From A Dude and when they publish it, discreetly post the link as your GChat away message.
2. Call up your hottest platonic male friend, grab your digital camera and go do something adorable together. Now it's time to create a Facebook photo album full of pics of you looking smiley. (Bonus points if your ex was slightly paranoid that this guy had a thing for you). The Frisky: Possible to remain friends with an ex?
3. Permanently adopt that comfy sweatshirt he left at your place. Especially if he's the one who caused the breakup, he probably doesn't have the cojones to ask for it back now.
4. Gain that extra 10 lbs that fills you out nicely, like Joan Holloway on "Mad Men"...
5. ...or lose that extra 10 lbs so you can fit into your sexy jeans again. Either way, this also requires a Facebook photo album. The Frisky: How Joan Holloway gives me confidence
Don't Miss
The Frisky: Should you tattle on a cheater?
The Frisky: Is cheating ever deserved?
The Frisky: Nine signs he's a cheater
6. You might hear from his mom, sisters, or other family members you were close to after the breakup, especially if you dated for a long time. Airing too much of your dirty laundry to them will make you look like a psycho. But if he did cheat on you (and you didn't cheat back), it couldn't hurt to mention how his bad behavior led to the split. The Frisky: 10 rules on way men and women eat
Dude sure as hell didn't tell them the truth about why you broke up! And any mom or sister worth her salt will tear your ex a new one when they learn that's why he lost a great girl like you. The Frisky: Continue relationships with an ex's loved ones?
7. Ignore every single text, Tweet, Facebook poke and email from here on out. But kept posting stuff on your social networking sites on the regular.
8. If you're a songwriter or a poet, well, you know what to do. The creep who caused Ani Di Franco's song "Untouchable Face" probably hasn't forgotten what he did.
9. Penning aggressive-aggressive emails (as opposed to passive-aggressive ones) is always therapeutic. The Frisky: Passive aggressive notes Web site
10. Spend a few months feeling down. Indulge in some therapy. Do some fun things single women do. Work extra-hard at your job and get a promotion. Go take a trip or buy some new clothes. Whenever you're ready, go meet a new guy. Fall in love. Have tons of great sex. Laugh a lot. Talk about baby names and where you want your honeymoon to be. The next time you run into your ex, mention all the great things that have happened in your life since you broke up ... or just smile. The Frisky: Happy to be single
Monday, August 3, 2009
AMBER ALERT
From: For The Missing - Pacific Northwest (297965565)
To: (61141053)
Date: 8/3/2009 12:19:23 PM
Subject: AMBER ALERT, COLORADO!!!
AMBER Alert issued for 17 year old Colorado girl
Posted: Monday August 3, 2009 12:14 PM CT
The State of Colorado issued the Amber Alert on Monday [8-03] after the girl was forcibly taken at gunpoint from her home in Bayfield, in La Plata County around 2:00 am. The suspect is considered to be armed and dangerous. They are believed to be headed to Mexico or New Mexico.
Victim - Deanna Archuleta is a 17 year old Hispanic female with brown hair and brown eyes. She is 5'7" and weighs 120 pounds. She was last seen wearing capri pants, a maroon shirt and black flip-flops. She also has her nose pierced with a stud in the left side of her nose.
Suspect - Daniel Adam Baker is a 25 year old Hispanic male with brown hair and brown eyes. He is 5'4" and weighs 125 pounds. He was last seen wearing blue jeans and a blue shirt. He has an earring in his left ear.
Vehicle - black 2001 Mercury Mountaineer with New Mexico license number 344DDD OR blue 2000 Dodge Durango with New Mexico license number GJS875.
OR 
*Vehicle Representation*.. - NOT Actual Vehicles
ANYONE WITH INFORMATION OR A SIGHTING SHOULD IMMEDIATELY DIAL 911 OR THE LA PLATA COUNTY SHERIFF'S OFFICE AT 970-382-7020.
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To: (61141053)
Date: 8/3/2009 12:19:23 PM
Subject: AMBER ALERT, COLORADO!!!
Posted: Monday August 3, 2009 12:14 PM CT
The State of Colorado issued the Amber Alert on Monday [8-03] after the girl was forcibly taken at gunpoint from her home in Bayfield, in La Plata County around 2:00 am. The suspect is considered to be armed and dangerous. They are believed to be headed to Mexico or New Mexico.
Victim - Deanna Archuleta is a 17 year old Hispanic female with brown hair and brown eyes. She is 5'7" and weighs 120 pounds. She was last seen wearing capri pants, a maroon shirt and black flip-flops. She also has her nose pierced with a stud in the left side of her nose.
Suspect - Daniel Adam Baker is a 25 year old Hispanic male with brown hair and brown eyes. He is 5'4" and weighs 125 pounds. He was last seen wearing blue jeans and a blue shirt. He has an earring in his left ear.
Vehicle - black 2001 Mercury Mountaineer with New Mexico license number 344DDD OR blue 2000 Dodge Durango with New Mexico license number GJS875.
OR *Vehicle Representation*.. - NOT Actual Vehicles
ANYONE WITH INFORMATION OR A SIGHTING SHOULD IMMEDIATELY DIAL 911 OR THE LA PLATA COUNTY SHERIFF'S OFFICE AT 970-382-7020.
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