12 signs of an abuser

Twelve Signs Of A Batterer
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1. Jealousy

2. They blame others, including you, for their faults. "You made
me lose my temper".

3. The blame circumstance for their problems. "If only I had a job I wouldn't be so upset."

4. Their behavior is unpredictable.

5. They belittle you verbally.

6. They cannot control their anger.

7. They always ask for a second chance.

8. They say they'll change, they won't do it again.

9. Their family resolves their problems with violence.

10. They are close minded. Their way is the only way.

11. They play on your guilt. "If you loved me you would------."

12. Their behavior often worsens if they use alcohol or drugs.

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Excerpt From Ann Landers' Column on Batterers:

1. He comes on as a real charmer and loves you instantly.
2. He has problems with authority figures.
3. He embarrasses you in the presence of others.
4. He is nasty on the road--feels other drivers are competing with him.
5. He wants your undivided attention at all times.
6. You feel controlled because he must always be "in charge."
7. He has a dual personality--sometimes adult, other times childish.
8. He is very competitive--and he must always win.
9. His promises and apologies are meaningless.
10. He displays jealousy toward your close friends and family members.
11. He can't tolerate criticism and is always defending himself and trying to justify
unacceptable behavior.
12. He has extreme highs and low--both unpredictable.
13. He is rough at times--love pats become more and more painful. Suddenly, you realize
he is a serious abuser and you are a victim.

10 ways legal to punish a cheater

10 legal ways to punish a cheaterStory Highlights
If your ex cheated on you, there are legal ways to get even
Do whatever it takes to look your best, post pix on Facebook with male friend
If his mom or sister ask about breakup, tell them he cheated on you
Ignore all social media contact from him. But post a song about his cheating ways
updated 9:23 a.m. EDT, Wed August 19, 2009Next Article in Living »


By Jessica Wakeman


(The Frisky) -- You don't have to be Jennifer Aniston to think that the four women who Krazy-Glued a cheater's penis to his stomach were way harsh and beyond psycho.


If your ex's loved ones ask why you broke up, it's OK to admit he cheated on you, writer says.

But in our less scrupulous/mature moments, many of us want to punish a particularly nasty ex, especially if he was a cheater.

Ladies, let's keep it legal (and Krazy Glue-free), OK? Here are 10 ideas:

1. Email his crappiest crap e-mail to Jezebel.com's Crap E-mail From A Dude and when they publish it, discreetly post the link as your GChat away message.

2. Call up your hottest platonic male friend, grab your digital camera and go do something adorable together. Now it's time to create a Facebook photo album full of pics of you looking smiley. (Bonus points if your ex was slightly paranoid that this guy had a thing for you). The Frisky: Possible to remain friends with an ex?

3. Permanently adopt that comfy sweatshirt he left at your place. Especially if he's the one who caused the breakup, he probably doesn't have the cojones to ask for it back now.

4. Gain that extra 10 lbs that fills you out nicely, like Joan Holloway on "Mad Men"...

5. ...or lose that extra 10 lbs so you can fit into your sexy jeans again. Either way, this also requires a Facebook photo album. The Frisky: How Joan Holloway gives me confidence

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6. You might hear from his mom, sisters, or other family members you were close to after the breakup, especially if you dated for a long time. Airing too much of your dirty laundry to them will make you look like a psycho. But if he did cheat on you (and you didn't cheat back), it couldn't hurt to mention how his bad behavior led to the split. The Frisky: 10 rules on way men and women eat

Dude sure as hell didn't tell them the truth about why you broke up! And any mom or sister worth her salt will tear your ex a new one when they learn that's why he lost a great girl like you. The Frisky: Continue relationships with an ex's loved ones?

7. Ignore every single text, Tweet, Facebook poke and email from here on out. But kept posting stuff on your social networking sites on the regular.

8. If you're a songwriter or a poet, well, you know what to do. The creep who caused Ani Di Franco's song "Untouchable Face" probably hasn't forgotten what he did.

9. Penning aggressive-aggressive emails (as opposed to passive-aggressive ones) is always therapeutic. The Frisky: Passive aggressive notes Web site

10. Spend a few months feeling down. Indulge in some therapy. Do some fun things single women do. Work extra-hard at your job and get a promotion. Go take a trip or buy some new clothes. Whenever you're ready, go meet a new guy. Fall in love. Have tons of great sex. Laugh a lot. Talk about baby names and where you want your honeymoon to be. The next time you run into your ex, mention all the great things that have happened in your life since you broke up ... or just smile. The Frisky: Happy to be single

AMBER ALERT

From: For The Missing - Pacific Northwest (297965565)
To: (61141053)
Date: 8/3/2009 12:19:23 PM
Subject: AMBER ALERT, COLORADO!!!


AMBER Alert issued for 17 year old Colorado girl
Posted: Monday August 3, 2009 12:14 PM CT

The State of Colorado issued the Amber Alert on Monday [8-03] after the girl was forcibly taken at gunpoint from her home in Bayfield, in La Plata County around 2:00 am. The suspect is considered to be armed and dangerous. They are believed to be headed to Mexico or New Mexico.

Victim - Deanna Archuleta is a 17 year old Hispanic female with brown hair and brown eyes. She is 5'7" and weighs 120 pounds. She was last seen wearing capri pants, a maroon shirt and black flip-flops. She also has her nose pierced with a stud in the left side of her nose.



Suspect - Daniel Adam Baker is a 25 year old Hispanic male with brown hair and brown eyes. He is 5'4" and weighs 125 pounds. He was last seen wearing blue jeans and a blue shirt. He has an earring in his left ear.



Vehicle - black 2001 Mercury Mountaineer with New Mexico license number 344DDD OR blue 2000 Dodge Durango with New Mexico license number GJS875.

OR
*Vehicle Representation*.. - NOT Actual Vehicles

ANYONE WITH INFORMATION OR A SIGHTING SHOULD IMMEDIATELY DIAL 911 OR THE LA PLATA COUNTY SHERIFF'S OFFICE AT 970-382-7020.

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